Today I want to speak directly to clients who are struggling to quit smoking. There is something keeping you stuck and holding you back from your best and healthiest self, and perhaps it is FEAR.
It’s normal to fear change, especially when it comes to quitting smoking. If you started when you were quite young, you might not have a working memory of what life is like without smoking in it, and it might be a bit scary to even consider what a tobacco-free life would feel like.
I often see posts from people trying to quit that the cravings are intense, or they’ve had an extremely difficult day, and so it’s easy for the rest of us that want to quit smoking to pick up on that negative vibe. We are taught to think that quitting smoking is super difficult, creating all kinds of fear in our minds. I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be.
One of the most common things I hear from my clients who have quit smoking is: “That was way easier than I thought it was going to be!” Adopting new ways of thinking and being without cigarettes is partly why my clients feel so confident, and that means the fear is way less than it would be otherwise.
Let’s get you past the fear of change. Let’s get you thinking about a tobacco-free life including all the bells and whistles that come along with your new YOU.
Let’s break it down:
1. How many of you chose to become a smoker for life? I’m pretty sure that when you first started smoking, no matter what the reason, you didn’t say to yourself, I am going to do this forever. I’m going to smoke until I’m sick, or worse until I have a disease that limits my ability to enjoy life.
We might wonder what we will do instead of smoking when we are bored, or when we go for a break, or when we go to a party, or drink coffee, or when we hang out with our smoking buddies. We might wonder if we will enjoy those things just as much as we do now with the cigarette associated with that activity.
I’d like to challenge you to start thinking about that fear differently. I would like to challenge you to say to yourself that the only thing to fear is what would happen if you don’t even try to quit smoking.
Don’t expect things to be the same, because they won’t be. You will be a tobacco-free person enjoying all of the benefits of your health, and all of the benefits to your future best self.
Stop thinking about quitting as a method of depriving yourself of a cigarette, and start thinking about quitting as a way to regain control over your body, health, finances, and future. Remember that approximately 80% of the population are tobacco-free, and they seem to enjoy time with friends, coffee breaks, and parties just as much as anyone else despite the fact they are not smoking. Give it a try!
2. Our bodies are incredibly intelligent systems, but we often don’t seem to respect or even understand the complexity of them. We often want quick-fixes, expecting the latest fad or idea to change our plan to adopt a healthier lifestyle, and for some unknown reason, people are afraid to fail.
My advice is, don’t be afraid to fail. Failing just means you are learning more about yourself. If you can find one excuse to have a cigarette, then you will find another and another. Don’t think of a slip as a failure. Instead get back on track and push through. Keep pushing through and you will come out the other side, and you will have faced your fears head-on.
Experience has taught me that fear is a gift, and that waiting just on the other side of fear is an amazing opportunity. If we let fear hold us back, we never get to experience what that opportunity on the other side feels like.
Lastly, if you are struggling, I can help. Just partnering with me will make you more likely to succeed. Feel the Fear, embrace it, and then make your move. Let’s explore what’s keeping you stuck. Let’s explore what’s slowing you down to getting what you really want.